Sunday, March 26, 2006

The ''INNER'' and ''OUTER''


CONSIDER THIS...
CIRCUMSTANCES, ATTITUDES, and CHANGES

---At present, we may see we have different approaches to events and circumstances that make up our life. Some change with every gust of wind, while others ''armor'' themselves at the very ''thought'' of change. And, of course, there are those ''in-the-middle'' who don't get flustered very much at all about change. These are the ones who seem the happiest.
---Those who take things as a matter of course, can ''roll-with-the-punches,'' are very pleasant to be around. You feel you don't have to worry about everything you say, for fear of saying the ''wrong'' thing and throwing them into their defensive mode. You can be more Spontaneous and more Creative. This seems more of a ''healthy'' situation.
---What this comes down to is a balance of the ''outer'' and the ''inner.'' The outer is our Circumstance while the inner is our Attitude towards it. Many of us let our circumstances govern how we feel. That is because, for the most part, we don't know any difference. We ''compete'' with each other instead of working together. We get so caught up in ''winning'' that we sometimes miss the learning and companionship aspect of the whole thing. Of course, then, if we lose, we are devastated. It is like ''throwing out the baby with the bathwater.''
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---Don't Let Circumstances, Govern How We ''FEEL''---
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---We, then, let our circumstances dictate how we feel. When we let our circumstances govern how we feel, it is so easy to slip into the ''if onlys.'' If only this were different. If only that were different. It is something we do because we are trying to bring the situation into balance. We are now ''projecting'' and then it becomes an easy step to ''blame'' others for ''our'' circumstances. This is so easy to do.
---To balance the ''inner'' and ''outer,'' we must go Within and get to know ourselves, at the very least, ''better.'' We are not told this. We work on the circumstances and get more and more frustrated and frenzied. We don't know ''if we are coming or going.''
---Working on ourselves is the only way. Know ''thyself.'' Otherwise, we end up wanting to change everyone and everything to suit our ''feelings.'' It starts by being Truthful with ourselves and to ''fess-up'' to our true feelings. We get to ''know'' ourselves and begin the journey of Self-Knowledge. The ''inner'' is changing, thus our attitude, while the ''outer'' follows along. Eventually, over time [and it may take Some Time], the outer and inner come into balance. Our Circumstances match our Attitudes towards them. We feel ''good'' about our situation and things in general.
---Our circumstances can certainly effect how we feel, but if we have a ''good'' attitude we can weather most any storm. Sometimes it is very difficult to change our circumstances, but by being honest with ourselves and working on our inner self, our attitudes, we soon see that we may have been thinking in a way that ''sabotages'' our own enjoyment. Of the two, circumstances or attitudes, one certainly can more easily take charge of an attitude. If we let our circumstances ''rule'' how we feel, we will someday soon see ourselves in ''hot-water.'' It is easier to change ourselves than to change the ''whole'' world.
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---If Things Don't Suit Us, It is Easier To CHANGE Ourselves, Than The ''Whole'' World..
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---I think it very important to look at the Attitudes we bring ''to the table.''
---If we have an easy manner, quality friendships, and don't rain on others parades all the time, we must be doing something right. We find that it is our attitude toward the circumstances we find ourselves in, that allows us to effectively make the necessary changes to those circumstances. We find that we can adjust our circumstances to make them more pleasant and suitable.
---If we have an unpleasant outlook at the outset, there is a very good chance that changes and the ''whole'' process will be much the same, unpleasant. Watch your attitudes toward different people and things for awhile and see where you stand. See how flexible you are in situations. If you are Angry at those who disagree with you-Check Your Attitude. If you don't particularly like your circumstances. Check Your Attitude. Remember that it may be very difficult to sometimes affectively change the circumstances we find ourselves in, but with some ''inner'' work, We Can Change our Attitude, and How Adaptive We Are to the Changes. Love, Flexibility and Acceptance are the Keys. Be Well.

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